Two of my friends are dating
Oh, I guess I called you John because my best friend John just texted me. It is straight-up exhausting to date two people at once. It's a little voice whispering, “You need to pick one. They're going to find out.”You try to picture life with just one boy, but you can't. You find yourself making up all kinds of ridiculous fabrications to keep both the guys separated from each other.
Haha.”Worse-case scenario: It's while you're having sex. I mean, it's hard enough to make the time to see one person, let alone two. The guy you're with at any given moment will be the one you like the most. One boyfriend thinks you were with your sister last night, so you fabricate anecdotes from your evening together and warn your sister in case he asks. If you don't come to a decision (AND QUICKLY), both relationships will get destroyed. Right, you wouldn't have been so conflicted in the first place.
We're all looking for love: the big kind, the one that will change the world as we know it. The two of them are so different, but both have qualities that spark your interest.
We spend so much of our time waiting, searching, and going through the motions of dating until we find what we're looking for. One of them may have the best sense of humor; the other may be incredibly witty and smart.
Everything sucks; you had two amazing guys, and now you've ended up with nothing.
So let’s add another one to the list: chasing the same girl. “Well,” I paused, trying to construct my sentence, “If the guys decide to fight there will be someone who will lose both a friend and a girl.” “True, but…” And I see it right then and there. However, during a meal with some friends a couple of days later, Boy B apparently liked her too.
Best-case scenario: It happens when you're out and about.
You can backtrack immediately and do serious damage control: “What?
Sure, he would have a chance to fight, but for how long? There are some risks in this world that should not be taken.
I don't know why it makes me so angry when I think about it. I know there's nothing against me at all and I'm not jealous of either of them... They have hooked up and you love them both but they've put each other before you. Whether it's long-standing baggage, happy thoughts, or recent trauma, posting it here may provide some relief.
Of course I'm happy for them, but for some reason thinking about it makes me feel angry, which, in turn, makes me feel inferior. I can't put my finger on it but just seeing the two of them together drains my energy completely. It just makes me bitter and I shouldn't be at all. We'll listen, and if you want, we'll talk.
“If both guys are friends and from the same social circle, they ought to sit down and talk about it – you know, about who is going to strike and who is going to back off. A word of advice to the girls: find a guy who want to lay down his pride for you, instead of defending it.
Boy A and Boy B were friends, good friends, housemates even. It was apparent that Girl Z liked Boy B instead if A, so both boys sat down and talked about it.