Dont bother telling me who my ex is now dating
Yangki’s Answer: There’s really no telling what’s on her mind.
It could be any one or more of these reasons:1) To see if you still love her, still care or are interested in a relationship.2) She may be feeling guilty for breaking up with you, doesn’t want you to hate her for it and trying to be your “friend” the best way she knows how.3) For her own ego reasons (to see if she still has a certain effect on you).4) She is using you as her “security blanket” to shield her from feelings of loneliness until someone else comes along.5) She thinks she’s offering you the opportunity to try to get her back.
Sometimes, this is done unconsciously, where she really doesn’t know she is doing it.
Other times, she means to hurt you and when that’s the case, you know she isn’t ready to give you all of her. If they are pissed with their current boyfriend, they will pull the “old boyfriend” card. What this is telling you is that she still isn’t over him, no matter what she says, and you need to accept this and deal with it.
It has been dragging on for about 8 weeks which is since the time we broke up.
The relationship had problems that we couldn’t resolve and she decided it was better to break up.
Do you really want her to stop contacting you or just frustrated that she has not come out straight and told you that she wants you back – or at least given you clear signals that say she wants you back?
*What to do when your girl is still communicating with her ex. has some excellent indicators your girlfriend is still feeling something viable toward her ex. But it’s important to be wary of a few common factors just so you don’t wind up in a sticky situation.
Usually there aren’t clear-cut indicators your girlfriend has feelings for another guy.
This may be why she hints that she’s somewhat dating but not really (translation: I’m still available but it may not be for long). She is the only one who really knows why she’s doing what she does.
But whatever her reasons are, you acting like a reluctant victim strikes me as either someone who doesn’t want this to stop or someone who has always let her have her way and won’t stand up for yourself and what you want.