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For them, the solution is needs met but without letting the wife know.” Seku suggests both parties practice being open.
That is, “free and open to date other people, and connect organically.” According to Seku the best approach is when authenticity is key. Jeff Menzise, Doctor of Clinical Psychology and couples coach, is often referred and requested as a neutral party-mediator between couples considering opening up their relationship as a form of enhancement.
In situations where people who are monogamous say ‘O.k., we’ll be able to work it out’ and their partner alludes to ‘I know what you’re saying, but I’m going to start seeing other people anyway,’ they typically do not succeed.” For those who present with a willingness to try open relating, their reasons vary but may often include incompatible sex drives.
Menzise says he has seen many situations where one partner feels inadequate in a sense of not being experienced enough or not lasting long enough such as with a wife who may have a higher sex drive.
He asks, “How do you feel about your ability to give in this relationship?
Do you feel like you’re adequate–doing everything you can, carrying the weight where you feel your partner’s satisfied with you?
A recent dinner with a past acquaintance has brought me to a place where I now know a conversation on why-I-even-dressed-up-for-a-dinner-with-a-man-I-had-no-idea-was-married-until-we-were-well-into-dessert is very much needed.
He’s not able to satisfy her and he’s literally decided to bring someone else in,” notes Menzise. Most people wouldn’t believe how common a practice this is with a relationship: A man literally finding another to have sex with their wife.I am one who believes monogamy can be fulfilling and successful.I also believe we all deserve to feel we have the power of making a choice.“If I’m reading this guy won’t be able to handle it, or girl won’t be able to, there’s an insecurity there.In that situation, I will totally advise against it.” When conducting a session with a monogamous couple interested in trying something new, Menzise focuses on self-esteem and self-confidence.