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But short men have a different cultural experience than tall men, and I believe that this can make them excellent lovers, amazing boyfriends, and sensitive partners.Or they're just better boyfriends because their faces are already located closer to your vagina. Want more of Bustle's Sex and Relationships coverage?The man is the shorter partner in only four percent of heterosexual pairings. If you ask any height-obsessed woman — or me, a decade ago — they'll probably feed you some line about a tall man making them feel "safe" or "tiny." But let's unpack that for a second.What are we saying when we say we want a big man to make us feel tiny?When you date a guy who's around the same height as you, a kiss can just be a kiss, no step stools or pulley systems required. When I was dating around, I found the idea of dating a super-tall guy who had never had to ask a sales associate to help him get a box of Cap'n Crunch down exotic; but I'm glad that I settled down with someone who gets me on every level — including the level where I'm in a constant state of rage about how all jeans are too long for my legs.I had a long relationship with a dude who was 6'2" — a whole foot taller than me. A recent study published in The Journal of Sexual Medicine found that guys under 5'9" had sex more often than their taller counterparts. When I met my boyfriend, I assumed that he'd be sensitive about the height thing, and resigned my extensive and expensive heel collection to the back of my closet, switching them out for Converse and flats.
Being obsessed with men's height — in a way that you'd never obsess about any other one of their qualities — is bad for women, bad for dating, and reinforces a society that says physical traits we can't control are more important than who we really are or what we achieve.
Listen, what turns you on is what turns you on, and if you can really only get a wide-on for dudes over six feet, that's a-okay.
But if you're only into tall guys, I would urge you to think about why you'll only date tall guys.
When we stood side-by-side, his penis was about even with my abdomen, which made sex exactly as awkward as you'd imagine. Trust this 1993 study, published in the way-too-entertaingly-titled Annals of Sex Research, which found that there was basically no connection between height and penis size. But soon after we got together, he asked why I had so many heels that I never wore.
Trying to reconcile height disparities while boning involved a lot of crouching on unstable structures made out of stacked pillows and crawling around on tables, trying to use my D in high school Geometry to make all the angles line up. It turned out that he loved me in heels — and also, he had made his peace with his height and his body, and didn't need me to change the way I dressed or the things I liked to make him feel more like a man.