Dating behaviors of sociopaths Adult bi male chat
My friend and I always joke that we only date sociopaths (also known as: soce, soce-eee-ohhh; soce-with-the-most; Brocio a.k.a. We do this because in reality it’s not at all hilarious that the crazies flock to us and attempt to play games with our heads and hearts, so all we can do is laugh at the bizarre and unrelenting trend.
Kind of like when a dude breaks up with his girlfriend and that girl is automatically and irreversibly “so crazy, man.” I’d like to make the case for us females out there that have the fantastic misfortune of having exes that are Grade A, Christian Bale level, unhinged from any emotional reality.
The following is a non-scientific, guide as to whether you are dating a soce-like dude and should set that hawk free. Yes, he does this on purpose, in fact he enjoys it. I would have conversations with one of my exes, while we were dating, and he would just look me right in the eyes and be like “How does this make you feel? Oh, that is very interesting.” This is next level crazy.
An undercover soce-with-the-most thrives at the swooning process. To him your love affair progresses almost like the plotline of a Nicholas Sparks novel. To him the molding and manipulation of your mind is like a game of chess, as one of my exes professed: “It is all about the chase and the challenge. By the way, be on the look out for my yet-to-be-penned novel entitled “Confessions of Admitted Sociopaths: My Exes Edition.” He always knows the perfect thing to say to you in any situation. This is to draw you closer and keep you under his weird voodoo-like spell. Last time I checked I didn’t sign up to be part of a psychological experiment or research study at Penn or something.
Antisocial personality disorder is often hard to treat, and sociopaths usually don't think they need help.
It’s easy to assume that you’d never start a relationship with someone who has these characteristics, but it happens.
Dealing with this in a relationship “can feel invalidating, negating, abusive, and very uncomfortable,” Durvasula says.
That’s the thing about soces, they don’t really feel anything.
But sociopaths can be charismatic and some symptoms of their condition, like being impulsive and persuasive and shunning social norms, can be attractive in some situations.
A quick primer: A sociopath is someone who has antisocial personality disorder—a condition that causes them to lack empathy, be exploitative in close relationships, indifferent to the needs of others, entitled, and lack remorse for the bad things they do and say—according to clinical psychologist Ramani Durvasula, Ph D, author of . “They tend to only focus on your needs and wants when it is convenient for them.” For the record, being a sociopath isn't something you can fix on your own.
“Since the foundation of an intimate relationship is trust, this undercuts that,” Durvasula says.
Sociopaths have trouble forming and maintaining any kind of relationship with others.