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Here are the ways dating is different when you are 40 and over.
Most people over 40 are established in their lives, with steady careers and families.
Relationship expert Audrey Hope told me, "Not only have you grown in time, but you have also grown in your self-worth and experience, and can therefore magnetize a better love match through the law of attraction.
You lived through and survived the bad boys (or bad girls), the ones who broke your heart, and so now after 40, you are ready for mature and lasting love." She continued, "You have probably deepened from experiences and are now looking more at the soul, the heart, and the inside of the person, rather than their hair and pant size. If you were dating actively 20 years ago, you likely had to rely on actually going out and meeting potential mates in public places, like bars and clubs.
As Roger Ziegler, a 15-year certified life and relationship coach, told me, "Hopefully, by now, you are looking for a connection that goes beyond the surface appearance of things.
Kindness and good conversation are more important than looks or wealth." He also pointed to what you may look for when it comes to online dating profiles.
When I was growing up, I thought dating ceased at approximately 25 to 27 years of age.
Most "adults" I knew, like my older brother and cousins, were hitched by 27, so my theory made sense.
You are now more serious and looking for qualities that have long-term value, like a guy or girl with an interesting career and family aspirations.
Now, there's Tinder, Grindr, Facebook, Twitter, OK Cupid, and lots of other ways to meet all sorts of people.
That makes dating very exciting as long as you can sift through the ether.
Don't be afraid to get online to find a mate, according to Laurel House, author and Celebrity Dating Coach on E! "Make sure that you have a strategy and you are smart about it.
Ask questions, assert your needs, and have a confident 'Here I am' mentality," she told me.